by Dr. Karen Sherman www.drkarensherman.com Dr. Karen Sherman offers information to help couples deal with potential relationship difficulties. Queen For A Day Your dream has come true! You are officially engaged and have glowed in the warmth of the congratulations and good wishes from family and friends. You are about to embark in the planning of the most important day of your life - your wedding day. Most likely, you have probably had many fantasies about what that day will look like from the fresh flowers carried by the brides' maids to your spectacular dress; from the elegant table linen to the majestic reception hall. As you start to explore the details of making this day happen, it becomes apparent to you that things are costly; in some cases, a great deal more expensive than you had anticipated. As you look at the different choices, your heart leaps to a favorite - of course, it's one of the more expensive possibilities. But, it's only $1.50 more per place setting to have the one you really want. That's not a lot - especially for your day! As you are "oohing" and "aahing", your father quickly does the math and informs you that with 200 people coming, the extra $1.50 will add up to $300. Well, even $300 doesn't seem like that much. After all, it is your special day. As you continue to go through the process, it becomes obvious that there are lots of little extras that start to add up. Given the emotionality of this time, it is very easy to get caught up in the free-spirited energy and a sense of entitlement. There are some people who, fortunately, do not have to be concerned with financial issues. For the rest of us, money is an issue - especially for young couples starting out. There are some good ways to help you sort through the conflict between your fantasy and reality: Start by having a realistic budget. Have an honest talk with your parents, if they are the ones making the wedding. In addition, or instead, how much will you be providing? Make a list of all the different items for which you will have to pay. Decide which items are the most important to you; these are the things that you might decide to spend more money on. For example, if the music is essential, make sure you get the type you want and then conserve a bit on how many desserts you offer. Shop around and don't be afraid to bargain the price a bit. Many times, you can substitute certain items that are less costly but create the same overall effect. Most of all, remember to have a good time, sharing in the love of one another - that will be remembered long after the roses (or mums) wither. Copyright © Dr. Karen Sherman www.karensherman.com